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It’ll rain on Independence Day – Meteo warns

It’ll rain on Independence Day – Meteo warns

The Ghana Meteorological Agency (GMA) has cautined that it will rain on Independence Day, March 6th.

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Supreme Court not “a toy” for small cases – Okudzeto

Supreme Court not “a toy” for small cases – Okudzeto

One of Ghana’s legal luminaries Sam Okudzeto believes there is no legal basis to burden the Supreme Court with the raging debate about religious rights in mission schools.

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Health

Korle-Bu ponders ICU shutdown over ICU debts

Korle-Bu ponders ICU shutdown over ICU debts

Officials of the Korle Bu Teaching Hospital are considering closing down the Intensive Care Unit (ICU) because of lack of funds.

Chief Executive Officer of the hospital, Gilbert Buckle told Kojo Yankah...

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Business

Finance Minister says Ghc1.6bn paid to scheme

Finance Minister says Ghc1.6bn paid to scheme

The Ministry of Finance remitted more than GHc1.6 billion into the operational accounts of the National Health Insurance Fund (NHIF) for the 2013 and 2014 fiscal years.

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Sports

Jonny Evans and Papiss Cisse spitting row: Pundits want bans

Jonny Evans and Papiss Cisse spitting row: Pundits want bans

Manchester United defender Jonny Evans and Newcastle United striker Papiss Cisse should face bans after appearing to spit at each other, say Dietmar Hamann and Phil Neville.

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Love & Romance

Husband fined for 'not loving wife'

Husband fined for 'not loving wife'

A man in Turkey has been fined for saying "I don't love you" to his wife.

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Letting Go…

He sat there and stared blankly at me. In a bad situation, where a guy is miserable and unhappy and letting a girl walk all over him, why is it that so many men still can’t let go of their girlfriends?



Basically, there are three reasons why guys including my friend who is obsessed over not letting his gal go.

    1. They dated their partner for a very long time

    2. They had a very close relationship

    3. They don’t believe they would find a replacement partner.



Now, closeness of the relationship and duration of the relationship are pretty easy to understand, and there’s not much you can do about those two factors. But ease of finding a replacement partner now that one, we’re interested in.

Can’t Let Her Go? Stop Being Scared and Selfish

Once upon a time, I had a girlfriend I also couldn’t let go.

She was remarkable. Beautiful, intelligent, full of enthusiasm and a lust for life I’ve seen in few people before or since. From her I learned how to get to the quick of people with speed and have them opening up to me; from her I learned how to get what you want with others, no matter how unlikely it seems that you’ll get it. But I couldn’t give her what she wanted.

For years I did great experiences inside and outside the bedroom, great conversation and great memories.

But eventually she wanted more, and I couldn’t give it.

I also couldn’t let her go.

When I thought of it, part of it was, I thought, for her: if I let her go, what if she never meets anyone as good as me again? What if she’s wasted years of her life on me, and now it’s too late for her to find a quality man?

But part of it was definitely for me: if I let her go, what if I never find someone like her again? We had such an incredible and impossible-to-repeat path we had to follow to originally get together – what if women like her are simply outside my normal reach?

So, I held on, and wouldn’t give her what she wanted, nor would I break us up, for almost a year more. And that year was a disaster.

Once we officially broke up though, I went on a dating tear, and in quick succession I found myself with new high quality girlfriends – in some ways, better than that one I’d struggled giving up.

And I realized that I could get high quality replacement girlfriends easily.
I never had another bad break up again, and I never held onto a girl I should’ve let go again.

When I look back on that girlfriend I’d resisted letting go of for so long, I realize two things:

1.     I was scared, and

2.     I was selfish.

Despite the fact that I was never exclusive with her in the relationship (and I told her as much from the very outset), and despite the fact that I was sleeping with women instantly the moment we’d take any kind of break up, I didn’t believe I could find a girlfriend-caliber girl of her level of quality to replace her. So, I feared giving her up, and instead I held onto her, wasting her time.

And for a woman, whose value to men and ability to attract high quality men declines the more time goes by. Time is one of the most precious things she has.

Any time you can’t let her go when you should let her go, you are making the life she’s going to lead ever after a little bit worse, and a little bit worse, and a little bit worse, because the longer she has to wait for you to set her free, the lower the quality of man she’ll be able to get to replace you will drop.

If you’re doing this, if you really care about her (and not just yourself), you need to knock it off, before you wreck your life and hers.

To be continued…

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