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Residents along the Osu Castle and Osu Klottey areas have secured an injunction preventing the Accra Metropoli
Graphic journalist, Daniel Kenu has dropped all assault charges against brother of Ghana captain Asamoah Gyan,
The Eastern Regional Coordinating Director, Abdulai Zakari who was found dead in his room has been laid to res
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Minister for Youth and Sports Mahama Ayariga has denied allegations he masterminded the sacking of ex Black St
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Court prevents Vanderpuije from razing structures at Osu

Residents along the Osu Castle and Osu Klottey areas have secured an injunction preventing the Accra Metropolitan Assembly from demolishing their structures.

Residential buildings in the two communit...

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Politics

Akufo-Addo speaks: I never schemed to ‘stab’ Kufuor in the back

Akufo-Addo speaks: I never schemed to ‘stab’ Kufuor in the back


Flagbearer hopeful of the New Patriotic Party (NPP), Nana Akufo-Addo has denied claims he schemed to have John Agyekum Kufuor removed as the party’s presidential candidate in the run up to the 2000 ge...

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Health

Suspected Ebola case at Achimota proves negative

Suspected Ebola case at Achimota proves negative

Test conducted on a blood sample of a suspected Ebola patient at the Achimota Hospital has proved negative.

The suspected Ebola patient, a Nigerian went to the health facility on Sunday, September 14...

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Business

BoG given 7 days to investigate over $600,000 embassy fence wall

BoG given 7 days to investigate over $600,000 embassy fence wall

The Public Accounts Committee has given the Bank of Ghana seven days to explain the construction of a fence wall by the Ghana Embassy in Burkina Faso at a cost of $656,248.48.

The expenditure was rev...

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Sports

Blame GFA- Ayariga

Blame GFA- Ayariga

Minister for Youth and Sports Mahama Ayariga has denied allegations he masterminded the sacking of ex Black Stars coach Kwesi Appiah.
Appiah, who led Ghana to the World Cup, was fired last week with th...

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Love & Romance

What you should do instead of asking a friend why she stays in an abusive relationship

What you should do instead of asking a friend why she stays in an abusive relationship

Following the release of a video showing Ray Rice assaulting his then-fiancée, Janay Palmer -- and Rice's subsequent suspension from the NFL -- many survivors of domestic violence have come forward to...

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Letting Go…

He sat there and stared blankly at me. In a bad situation, where a guy is miserable and unhappy and letting a girl walk all over him, why is it that so many men still can’t let go of their girlfriends?



Basically, there are three reasons why guys including my friend who is obsessed over not letting his gal go.

    1. They dated their partner for a very long time

    2. They had a very close relationship

    3. They don’t believe they would find a replacement partner.



Now, closeness of the relationship and duration of the relationship are pretty easy to understand, and there’s not much you can do about those two factors. But ease of finding a replacement partner now that one, we’re interested in.

Can’t Let Her Go? Stop Being Scared and Selfish

Once upon a time, I had a girlfriend I also couldn’t let go.

She was remarkable. Beautiful, intelligent, full of enthusiasm and a lust for life I’ve seen in few people before or since. From her I learned how to get to the quick of people with speed and have them opening up to me; from her I learned how to get what you want with others, no matter how unlikely it seems that you’ll get it. But I couldn’t give her what she wanted.

For years I did great experiences inside and outside the bedroom, great conversation and great memories.

But eventually she wanted more, and I couldn’t give it.

I also couldn’t let her go.

When I thought of it, part of it was, I thought, for her: if I let her go, what if she never meets anyone as good as me again? What if she’s wasted years of her life on me, and now it’s too late for her to find a quality man?

But part of it was definitely for me: if I let her go, what if I never find someone like her again? We had such an incredible and impossible-to-repeat path we had to follow to originally get together – what if women like her are simply outside my normal reach?

So, I held on, and wouldn’t give her what she wanted, nor would I break us up, for almost a year more. And that year was a disaster.

Once we officially broke up though, I went on a dating tear, and in quick succession I found myself with new high quality girlfriends – in some ways, better than that one I’d struggled giving up.

And I realized that I could get high quality replacement girlfriends easily.
I never had another bad break up again, and I never held onto a girl I should’ve let go again.

When I look back on that girlfriend I’d resisted letting go of for so long, I realize two things:

1.     I was scared, and

2.     I was selfish.

Despite the fact that I was never exclusive with her in the relationship (and I told her as much from the very outset), and despite the fact that I was sleeping with women instantly the moment we’d take any kind of break up, I didn’t believe I could find a girlfriend-caliber girl of her level of quality to replace her. So, I feared giving her up, and instead I held onto her, wasting her time.

And for a woman, whose value to men and ability to attract high quality men declines the more time goes by. Time is one of the most precious things she has.

Any time you can’t let her go when you should let her go, you are making the life she’s going to lead ever after a little bit worse, and a little bit worse, and a little bit worse, because the longer she has to wait for you to set her free, the lower the quality of man she’ll be able to get to replace you will drop.

If you’re doing this, if you really care about her (and not just yourself), you need to knock it off, before you wreck your life and hers.

To be continued…

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