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17 Teachers sacked in Jaman South District

17 Teachers sacked in Jaman South District

The Jaman South District Directorate of Education has withdrawn the services of 17 teachers for poor performance and entering the profession with fake certificates.

Mr Kingsley Abrokwa, District Dire...

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Politics

Sammy Awuku: We cannot run the NPP like a military institution

Sammy Awuku: We cannot run the NPP like a military institution

National Youth Organiser of the New Patriotic Party (NPP), Samuel Awuku says the party cannot be run as military institution where people are not allowed to challenge orders.

National Chairman, Paul ...

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Health

Japan Releases Emergency Aid to Combat Ebola

Japan Releases Emergency Aid to Combat Ebola

The Japanese Government has released an emergency grant aid of $ 1.5 million (145 million Japanese yen) to help combat the Ebola viral disease outbreak in some West African countries including Sierra ...

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Business

Kumasi experiences diesel shortage

Some commuters in the Kumasi Metropolis and its surroundings last Monday evening and yesterday morning had to walk long distances to their destinations due to the unavailability of commercial vehicles...

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Sports

Paris Saint-Germain prepare Cech bid

Paris Saint-Germain prepare Cech bid

Paris Saint-Germain are set to make the first move for Petr Cech as they prepare to bid for the demoted Chelsea goalkeeper.

The veteran was a high-profile casualty of the Blues' intense competition f...

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Love & Romance

Why You Should Write Love Letters

Why You Should Write Love Letters

If you ask your friends, family, or the guy down the street if they write love letters, you might get a funny look. The kind of look you give someone who just asked you for money. Not a kind look by a...

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Letting Go…

He sat there and stared blankly at me. In a bad situation, where a guy is miserable and unhappy and letting a girl walk all over him, why is it that so many men still can’t let go of their girlfriends?



Basically, there are three reasons why guys including my friend who is obsessed over not letting his gal go.

    1. They dated their partner for a very long time

    2. They had a very close relationship

    3. They don’t believe they would find a replacement partner.



Now, closeness of the relationship and duration of the relationship are pretty easy to understand, and there’s not much you can do about those two factors. But ease of finding a replacement partner now that one, we’re interested in.

Can’t Let Her Go? Stop Being Scared and Selfish

Once upon a time, I had a girlfriend I also couldn’t let go.

She was remarkable. Beautiful, intelligent, full of enthusiasm and a lust for life I’ve seen in few people before or since. From her I learned how to get to the quick of people with speed and have them opening up to me; from her I learned how to get what you want with others, no matter how unlikely it seems that you’ll get it. But I couldn’t give her what she wanted.

For years I did great experiences inside and outside the bedroom, great conversation and great memories.

But eventually she wanted more, and I couldn’t give it.

I also couldn’t let her go.

When I thought of it, part of it was, I thought, for her: if I let her go, what if she never meets anyone as good as me again? What if she’s wasted years of her life on me, and now it’s too late for her to find a quality man?

But part of it was definitely for me: if I let her go, what if I never find someone like her again? We had such an incredible and impossible-to-repeat path we had to follow to originally get together – what if women like her are simply outside my normal reach?

So, I held on, and wouldn’t give her what she wanted, nor would I break us up, for almost a year more. And that year was a disaster.

Once we officially broke up though, I went on a dating tear, and in quick succession I found myself with new high quality girlfriends – in some ways, better than that one I’d struggled giving up.

And I realized that I could get high quality replacement girlfriends easily.
I never had another bad break up again, and I never held onto a girl I should’ve let go again.

When I look back on that girlfriend I’d resisted letting go of for so long, I realize two things:

1.     I was scared, and

2.     I was selfish.

Despite the fact that I was never exclusive with her in the relationship (and I told her as much from the very outset), and despite the fact that I was sleeping with women instantly the moment we’d take any kind of break up, I didn’t believe I could find a girlfriend-caliber girl of her level of quality to replace her. So, I feared giving her up, and instead I held onto her, wasting her time.

And for a woman, whose value to men and ability to attract high quality men declines the more time goes by. Time is one of the most precious things she has.

Any time you can’t let her go when you should let her go, you are making the life she’s going to lead ever after a little bit worse, and a little bit worse, and a little bit worse, because the longer she has to wait for you to set her free, the lower the quality of man she’ll be able to get to replace you will drop.

If you’re doing this, if you really care about her (and not just yourself), you need to knock it off, before you wreck your life and hers.

To be continued…

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